Me
Current Wishes
* Laura
* Born = 01/11/64
* Mom
* Graduate
:: "Enough money to make life easy on my kids, if even just for a while"::
:: "Just one weekend...never mind, you know"::
:: "Time, time and more time"::
:: "A really great vacation for my whole family"::
:: "To finish school and make bunches of money before arthritis creeps into my hands and makes my life hell"
Current Favorite Quotes and
the Wise People that Said Them
:: "Not a shred of evidence exists in favor
of the idea that life is serious." - Brendan Gill::
:: "You're never too old to become younger." - Mae West
:: "Always be nice to your children because they are
the ones who will choose your rest home." - Phyllis Diller::
:: "D'you call life a bad job? Never! We've had our ups and downs,
we've had our struggles, we've always been poor, but it's been
worth it, ay, worth it a hundred times I say when I look round
at my children." - W. Somerset Maugham, 'Of Human Bondage'::
:: "For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart.
It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul."- Judy Garland::
Sunday, April 30, 2006
How do you tell a bright, intelligent, willful, independent, more than capable of taking care of herself, 18 year old that she is making a mistake? The answer is you can't.
I love my children. I love them more than I love ANYTHING in this world.
My heart is hurting right now. My daughter is in love. It is not the puppy dog, let's hold hands kind of love. It is real. I know it is. I don't even think that the guy she is in love with is all that bad. I don't necessarily think he is right for her, but that is not my choice. He is kind to her and she smiles when she is with him. That should be what matters.
As with all people that fall in love, they want to be together as much as possible. When she turns 18 they are planning on moving into an apartment together.
How can you tell a child what only life experience can teach a person? How can you tell someone that education is so important and that life will be so much harder without it? How do you let a child grow up and move on without you when you know she is making it so much tougher on herself? How do you stop a person that you love from making a horrible life decision that she is hell bent on making? How do you tell an intelligent 18 year old that staying a kid is so much better than growing up, even if there are rules to follow? How do you tell your child that the rules that you have made are so much easier to follow than the rules that life hands you?
The answer to all of these questions is the same as the first. You can't.
I believe down to the fibers of my soul that she is making a tremendous mistake. I want to believe that she will be able to afford a car and a job and a life AND school. I know how difficult that is and that she probably won't.
How do you tell someone like this that with every prayer and wish in your heart, you pray that you are wrong? How do you say to her that you love her and want her to be happy? How do you tell her that if or when things don't work out, that you pray to the God she doesn't believe in, that she won't be too embarassed to come home?
Again, the answer is the same. You can't. She wouldn't listen anyway.
Melissa, I love you. Be careful. Take care of you.
Mom out
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