Me
Current Wishes
* Laura
* Born = 01/11/64
* Mom
* Graduate
:: "Enough money to make life easy on my kids, if even just for a while"::
:: "Just one weekend...never mind, you know"::
:: "Time, time and more time"::
:: "A really great vacation for my whole family"::
:: "To finish school and make bunches of money before arthritis creeps into my hands and makes my life hell"
Current Favorite Quotes and
the Wise People that Said Them
:: "Not a shred of evidence exists in favor
of the idea that life is serious." - Brendan Gill::
:: "You're never too old to become younger." - Mae West
:: "Always be nice to your children because they are
the ones who will choose your rest home." - Phyllis Diller::
:: "D'you call life a bad job? Never! We've had our ups and downs,
we've had our struggles, we've always been poor, but it's been
worth it, ay, worth it a hundred times I say when I look round
at my children." - W. Somerset Maugham, 'Of Human Bondage'::
:: "For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart.
It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul."- Judy Garland::
Wednesday, March 07, 2007
So, Ralph, my very dear, wonderful friend, this is for you. You asked me to write it down so you could say it the way I would, here it is. Take my advice with a grain of salt if you wish. I give it with love because it is not my place to be there to help.
Tell her you love her. Tell her she means more to you than any woman before and any woman that will ever come along again. Tell her that everything you do and feel for and about her is because your heart only wants her to be happy. Tell her that if this is what truly, in her heart and soul makes her complete and happy, then you are happy for her. Tell her that even though you are glad she is happy, you don't have to agree with or like her decision. Remind her that you taught her right from wrong and that you have to believe in the job you did as a parent and believe that she will pick what is right. Remind her to think VERY thoroughly about her actions because they will FOREVER be life altering. Tell her that she is an adult making an adult decision and that you hope with all your heart she is ready for all the consequences that come with what the world can dish out. Finally, kiss her on the forehead and again tell her that you love her and want her to be happy. Then leave it alone. TELL her all these things, don't assume that she already knows.
She might go through with things. She might not. You however can not change her feelings or her actions. You can only change the way you react to them. If you are angry and full of contentment, she will only run away from the closeness that you have and the decision that you WANT her to make.
You are a wonderful, caring, loving father. She is very lucky to have you in her life and in her heart she knows it. She will make her own mistakes, just as you did. She will pay for her own mistakes, just as you did. It is what it is. You can't change this one.
Ralph, this too shall pass.****************************************The central struggle of parenthood is to let our hopes for our children outweigh our fears. - Ellen GoodmanThis is part of the essence of parenthood, watching your kid grow into her own person and not being able to do anything about it. Otherwise children would be nothing more than pets.- Heather ArmstrongRaising kids is part joy and part guerilla warfare.- Ed AsnerWe cannot always build the future for our youth, but we can build our youth for the future.- Franklin D. Roosevelt
Mom out
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